Christopher Sansome is a sergeant on the police force, with 17 years working to protect us in our communities.
He thought he had everything together.
And then at age 40, he became a father…
Christopher Sansome is a sergeant on the police force, with 17 years working to protect us in our communities. He’s been married four years to his beautiful wife and is the father of two boys. He’s a contributor to the book “Dads Behaving Dadly 2” and he blogs at TheParentalShift.com.
Although law enforcement was always on the back of Christopher’s mind as a career choice, he took architecture in school as well as doing a number of other jobs before becoming a police officer at age 23. At the time, he didn’t have kids of his own and thought differently about the risks involved in the profession.
“Being a dad now, I look at it with a totally different perspective. At 23, you’re invincible.”
“There are a lot of professions out there that are risky. If you dwell on it and focus on it, that’s going to consume you.”
There are pros and cons to being a 40 year-old dad to two young children. Christopher feels he now has more perspective on the world than he did when he was young, as well as the seniority in his job now to control his work schedule more, to adjust to the family lifestyle. However, his boys won’t be finished high school when he retires and there are financial considerations to be made regarding post-secondary education for them.
His views on parenting have changed now that he has his own children.
“I understand how complex being a parent is and how challenging it can be. I had a very naïve view of it beforehand.”
Christopher met his wife on a tour of Europe (they both lived in different parts of California). Upon returning to the United States, they had a long distance relationship for a year before moving in together.
He believes balancing a career with fatherhood and being a good husband is challenging, but he and his wife make an effort to have time for themselves. During this time, they agree not to talk about the children.
“I think we’re on the same page; we have the same priorities and that makes a huge difference.”
Cartoon: Looney Tunes, Super Friends, then later He-Man and GI Joe
Family Tradition: visiting a small Dutch town in California to shop for Christmas ornaments, then giving them out to family at Thanksgiving
Embarrassing Moment: many crashes on his skateboard and bike
“It was always in front of as many people as possible”
In high school, he socialized with lots of different kids, but didn’t fit in with a particular group.
“At the time, it made me feel really insecure about things. I didn’t feel like I had a place.”
In order to nurture our children and give them a sense of community service, Christopher recommends instilling in them compassion, and teaching them how to understand the challenges of others.
“When you have that compassion, the natural step is to help people out”
TIME CAPSULE (30 Yrs):
“I’d want them to know they are very very important people to me. I love them tremendously and once they came along, things did shift for me as far as priorities and focus. I’m not always home for dinner, but whenever I’m at work, I want to be home with them…”